attention is energy

The smallest encounter or interaction has the ability to throw us on an emotional roller coaster ride, out of our very own centers and send us into a space irritability and anger. We can go on countless yoga retreats and spend the weekend at the spa but at the end of the day we still come home and react in the same way to our husbands not taking out the trash, our bosses unloading one more project, and our mother-in-law's critique about dinner.

Maybe yoga has turned into just one more thing on our list of things to do and if we miss out on a session we are sent down the path of guilt and shame for not keeping up the perfect routine or practice and our ego gets hurt when we don't looks so good in the designer jeans on Friday night! Have we taken on too much? And has our relationships turned into mere contracts? A 'if you do something for me I'll do something for you' kind of attitude. So when our husband fails to maintain their end of the bargain (like taking out the trash) we are shaken because the deal we made was just not fulfilled.

Just take a look at your life, when you are on the phone with your girlfriend and she doesn't agree with your complaints about your baby sitter what do you do? You then call someone else who will give you a boost and by saying "Oh my gosh yes, you are so right! Yes, yes, I agree that's horrible." Yet really the girlfriend is just waiting to get of the phone and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But the contract was successfully completed she gave you exactly want you expected or wanted to hear.

It is a boost in energy. Attention is energy. And throughout the whole day we seek the attention of others to keep us running. The truth is, we have enough energy unto ourselves from the very the heart of our beings. Have we looked inside? We have been taught to look outside for the solution in the form of vitamins, caffeine, beauty products and even in our relationships. It's a big industry out there that is selling us energy. Just look at you life and see!

Maybe it's time to look deeper into our relationships and shine some awareness on the lifestyle we have created. Where did the unconditional love go? When was the last time we did something for someone with out a 'contract' or expecting nothing in return?

Gratitude is the attitude. Listen to what your friends have to say. Look into the eyes of your husband and see him for who he is and not who you would like him to be.

Do something for no reason. Enjoy your family. Be enough unto yourself.