I'm just not in the mood

Have you ever told your husband that you are just not in the mood, not now at least? Have you told your best friend that you'll meet up with her next week but you never actually do? Have you ever gotten around to making that dream project a reality? I didn't think so. So in reality life is on hold for some future date that never really seems to come. Right? Your friends seem to be doing it all but you are just left behind. In other words, you procrastinate through life by blaming external events and objects for getting in your way like your poor parents or procrastinating in fear that you don't deserve your dreams anyway. (They are your dreams! Who else is going to make them into a reality?!!!) So how to tackle this one? Lets do a small experiment! It'll be fun. No exploding volcanos I promise. It goes a little something like this....

Pick up a glass with your left hand. Come on, humor me, go ahead and do it. Okay, got the glass? Great. Now, how many of you procrastinated in picking up the glass? How many of you actually picked up the glass no questions asked? And how many of you didn't pick up the glass at all telling yourself that it was too much WORK to go all the way to the kitchen so let me just read on she'll never know!

So as you just found out the mind plays a big role in this lovely game of procrastination. Also in the mix here is our lovely friend desire. Do I really want to pick up the glass?

The truth is mind gives me every excuse in the book NOT to do something! "Don't get up, just sleep in one more hour. You can do the dishes later. I'll do yoga tomorrow. Work can wait; just a few more minute on the sofa. Don't pick up the glass this is stupid she'll never know." This dialog is endless! The mind and the art of procrastination go hand in hand. Everything else seems to gets done before the work that needs to get done. Sound familiar? And it's always a negative dialogue. Notice you didn't even want to pick up the glass or play the game. Well it's like this in the game of life. And you are choosing not to play. Not to make love not to enjoy the company of your friends not to create the dream job. Just look! Widen your scope. There is much more going on than the negative dialog. The sun is actually shining!

And our lovely friend desire if you notice is changing all the time. One minute picking up the glass is no big deal at all and at another time it is the last thing that you ever would want to do. Maybe some of you feel this way about having kids. One day it seems like a grand desire and the next day not so grand especially if you just visited your friends with kids. So we can deduce that the issue here with procrastination isn't about the object itself (in this case the glass) but it could be work or kids or anything else for that matter or the action (picking up the glass) or doing the work or raising the kids. The issue here is the fluctuation of these desires. Do I want to pick up the glass or not?

In other words know what you want. It can be so easy. Just pick up the glass. Just say yes to what comes your way. Or just drop it. Just like you can put the glass down. Again it's that easy. One simple movement of the mind and your whole life can change before your very eyes!

It's your very own free will. I tend to choose play over work. Actually my work is play. Why not? See you at the beach!